I provide couples therapy, individual therapy, and family therapy. I practice online therapy throughout Colorado. I live in Fort Collins, Colorado, where I also offer outdoor sessions at parks (for social distancing reasons). Please see below for more information about my approach to couples, individual, and family therapy!
Couples Therapy/Marriage Counseling
Disconnection and negative cycles in relationships keep partners unseen, frustrated, exhausted, and alone. I work with couples with presentations from premarital checkups to affairs and other serious injuries to the relationship. I am especially experienced in working with couples to:
- Build trust and heal from violations of trust
- De-escalate destructive patterns of conflict
- Develop greater intimacy and closeness
- Foster acceptance of one another’s differences and appreciation for each other
- Work through the effects of stressors on the relationship (e.g., life transitions, work or family stress)
- Grow sexual intimacy and satisfaction
In couples therapy and marriage counseling, I use Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT-C), and I am the founder of the Fort Collins EFT Community. EFT is the most evidence-based couples therapy method, with 90% of couples improving their relationship with this method and 75% no longer meeting criteria for relationship distress after treatment (learn more about EFT by viewing my Psychology Today article about EFT). I am also trained in Gottman Method Couples Therapy (Level 2), and can teach you the communication skills known to be associated with happier relationships as a supplement to the our deeper work with EFT. Using the most effective methods, we will develop an understanding of the pattern in which you’re caught, learn how to relate in a way that will deepen your understanding of one another, and restructure your interaction with each other for true connection.
You can get to a clearer level of understanding and break out of your typical cycle to move toward a relationship with greater openness and security. In nourishing a relationship, we build a “safe haven” that can bring comfort and joy into your life and provide the strength to face life challenges. This powerful force, called love, is the most important thing in this life. Couples therapy and marriage counseling can guide you in having transformative conversations and making concrete changes that will move you toward a more secure and satisfying bond.
Let’s work together to find out what’s blocking you from living your most fulfilling life. Pain in life may be unavoidable, but you can overcome the struggle. We can work to identify your core yearnings and then move past your limiting beliefs so that you can live your one precious life as fully as possible. We can turn the hard stuff into healing and growth to improve your mental health. I provide individual therapy for adults and adolescents.
Using experiential (e.g., Internal Family Systems/parts work, EFT), mindfulness, and solution-focused techniques as well as those from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), I adapt my therapy approach to work with a variety of concerns. I treat individuals seeking help with struggles such as breakups/divorces/other life transitions, stress, self-esteem, and interpersonal issues, or searching for more meaning and purpose in their lives. It’s important in therapy to address problems head on, but also spend time focusing on unique strengths to help in personal growth.
You may want to work with me if you would like to improve your:
- Mental health (reducing stress or depressive symptoms)
- Fulfillment or purpose in life
- Way of being in your relationships
- Compassion and acceptance of yourself or of others
- Living based on your values
Although we will work to treat your problems, the benefits of therapy don’t stop at changing the negative parts of your experience. Good work can also go beyond this: leading to a sense of being fully alive and living your story with a feeling of empowerment, understanding, meaning, and peace.
Everyone is unique, and sometimes these differences mean it can be hard to reach common ground with those we love. If this is the case for your family, I’m glad you’re here.
Clients often come to me with worries regarding how things are going in the family. Using systemic therapy techniques including Emotionally Focused Family Therapy, we can develop better communication about how to talk about the hard things that we all would rather push under the rug or that cause family conflict. Even though it is one of the most challenging things we can do, I think this work should be fun. I pepper in as much play as possible.
I see families of all different types in therapy. I encourage you to reach out to me if you think a session with me could benefit your family.
Reach Out to Schedule a Couples, Individual, or Family Session!